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I'm okay, but I will be okayer and in another place next year.

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Dec. 31st, 2008 | 07:12 pm
mood: hotCurling up with my nasal spray
music: Rilo Kiley - Breakin' Up | Powered by Last.fm

Year-end blog entry 2/2 (and my 1300th LJ entry!).

First, some magical statistics. Though a lot of my travel was routine stuff (going to the same place for work, going to NM for weddings and family visits), I did have some good trips, like to Boston in November, and amassed 22,823 miles on Delta Air Lines and American Airlines. Here is the map. I also made two good trips by car, to Asheville with Sam in March and to DC in October. Thanks to 500-mile minimums and x2 promotions, I became Delta Silver for the first time, which will make my travel a bit saner and easier to take in the coming year. I haven't made firm plans for 2009 yet, but one place I'm hoping to go is Palm Springs, and I know that work will take me to Orange County in January, Chicago in March and April, and Urbana-Champaign in April.

Second, an accounting of the year. I've said at some point in every year since I graduated in 2005 that I wanted to move out of Durham and 2009 will finally be that year. Thus I started planning for it in 2008. This is not because I don't like where I am; indeed, I've come to appreciate the many great things about Durham and the Triangle for the first time this year, and I'm very proud to live here. But I do believe that there are many other great places out there, and I want to experience some of them.



CCB Plaza, downtown Durham


The mechanism for a future move has been a frequent topic on this blog: graduate school. I firmly believed it would have been a mistake for me to try to get another degree immediately after college, because I had no idea what I wanted to do and refused to rush the discovery process. In fact, I didn't even know about the degree I now plan to seek until four months before I graduated from Duke. So, the question became, when would I be ready to apply? Asked by my parents, bosses, friends, and others. This is the year that I finally felt like it was the right time, and spent much of the summer researching schools and studying for the GRE. Most of my free time from September through December was consumed with visits and applications, and I'm finally almost done with the process. By April I'll know 1) if I was accepted anywhere and 2) where I plan to go. At that time, I'll likely write a longer prognostication about what I want for my professional life.



My new desk, in my new house


I do already have a job and lots to say about it, of course. Working for your alma mater, as I've been doing for 3.5 years now, is a strange experience from top to bottom. Much as it's ultimately a disappointment to love a corporation (corporate citizens are people only for tax purposes), loving a university can be difficult, so I focus more on the good people here. I'm extremely fortunate to have a boss that cares and a job with room to grow. This year I was able to learn bunches about a variety of topics: Drupal, HTML, payroll administration, event planning, scalability, long-range planning, and even interoffice relations. All of these will be huge assets if I happen to not get into a Master's program next year, but even if I do I can use some of my new skillz. I also benefited from the wise words of some great lecturers: Jim Neal, Bishop Gene Robinson, and Sharon Holland.



The Franklin Center gallery, at work


On the social side, I've run at a thousand miles per hour this year. I am very lucky to have boatloads of friends in the Triangle, and they have kept me afloat when other parts of my life aren't working. Chris and I hosted 6 parties in 2008, all the better to give some very busy folks the opportunity to blow off steam and meet other attractive and busy people. :) Things have slowed down a shade in the last few months as I focused on graduate school apps and work, but I'm still very happy to participate in Monday Martini Night with Chris, Tyler, Jason, Jody, and now Matt and Leland, and Movie Night on Thursdays with a large crew. I also have a few select friends that live elsewhere now (including those back in NM) and I'm much indebted to their efforts to stay in touch, because they are so very worthwhile. Such support was key when the elephant in Room 2008: I was in a relationship when I began this year and now I'm not, and that was not my choice. It really caused the middle of my year to fall out from under me, and putting everything back together took more time than I could have anticipated (and is really not yet complete). Even so, I am happy now, living in a gorgeous house that I would not have otherwise and surrounded by great people as I readjust to the single life, and I hope Sam is happy too.




In all the months of screaming along to Jenny Lewis lyrics and wishing Facebook wasn't quite as comprehensive as it is, I focused too much on saying, "We were a good couple." I can now march into 2009 with the slightly revised, "We were a good couple." A slight shift in emphasis really changes everything.

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Mark

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from: mahka42
date: Jan. 1st, 2009 02:14 am (UTC)
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yay travel! yay widget! do you use flightmemory?

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Jan. 1st, 2009 05:58 am (UTC)
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I opened an account but abandoned it a long time ago. I need to get back and updating it soon; when I do, I'll post it about on here. :]

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mark

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from: kishenehn
date: Jan. 1st, 2009 05:30 pm (UTC)
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Happy new year, my friend. :)

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Jan. 1st, 2009 07:02 pm (UTC)
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And a happy 2009 to you! :)

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