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Nov. 11th, 2008 | 11:38 pm
mood: lovedloved
music: Also, I accidentally typed "35" on my first attempt at the title.

A manifesto for the person under this hairstyle.



My birthday begins in 15 minutes. I'm not sure how exactly to sum up the last year, but I still loved it and feel much more alive than ever before. True, I have the same job as a year ago, and most of my friends are the same. But much else has changed: I'm single now, I moved out of the magical former apartment into a house that's even better, and I am in the midst of applying to graduate school, which will change just about everything as none of the programs are local.

What can I say I've learned in the last year? How to be alone and okay with that: yes, my relationship of the last 18 months ended against my will, but I have found new ways to be okay with that. And yes, being single has lots of advantages, which I've also begun to explore in the last month. How to be the greatest advocate for myself: after a few years of doubting its usefulness, I am building a professional network that can be very handy when I need to draw on the expertise and connections of the crowd. How to plan for a future with some known quantities and a lot of uncertainty: though I've had a retirement plan since 21, only since maybe September have I actually been able to pour significant financial resources into supporting myself in the future. Whether I'm in graduate school by this time next year or not, the security that this provides is wonderful, a comfort I never knew could feel so good. On top of that, I have an awesome network of friends that are advocates for me and that I am happy to serve as the same in return, and I am cutting out those that are not.

Some experience is more gradual; as I began my fourth year of working full time in August, I can balance the demands of my job and the requests of those who depend on me with the life I want to be living, in a house that's my palace and with people that I care about and want to be around and exploring a world that I've seen so little of to this point. I foresee no reason that this growth will slow or stop in the coming year, and that just plain makes me happy.

My parents already sent a card (with money that I will be putting into savings; how diligent of me) and the Facebook posts are already rolling in. I feel immensely grateful for this last year, and even more that I get to experience another one, starting right now. Thanks for being a part of it, if you have been, and keep reading as I inevitably get older and more long-winded.

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Urban Rebel

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from: urbanrebel
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 05:13 am (UTC)
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Happy Birthday! I always enjoy your posts. I haven't been able to figure out your whole relationship thing though. I thought you were in one, then you talked about one of your escapades and I realized you weren't with more conformation of that recently. BUT, it sounds like you're grounded and did OK through whatever happened - with a bright future ahead of you and a positive attitude that can only help. Wishing you your best year EVAH! ;-)

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 05:48 am (UTC)
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Thanks!

The short story is: I was until June, then he and I were hanging out together a lot in late August and September (too much, which we realized), and then we cut off pretty much all contact after that. It's been difficult to get a positive attitude, and I mostly didn't post when I was feeling negative or angry, but I found it somehow.

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Urban Rebel

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from: urbanrebel
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 07:36 am (UTC)
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What's the long story? ;-) kidding.

That sort of explains it. I knew I missed something somewhere along the line and even went back to look a couple of times after I'd get confused by your posts, but could never quite figure it out.

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thoughts and feels and thoughts and feels

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from: lucypevensie
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 05:18 am (UTC)
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Welcome to 25! :D

-ruthan

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 05:47 am (UTC)
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Thanks! I also didn't know you had a Livejournal; it seems everyone does. :)

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mark

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from: kishenehn
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 11:18 am (UTC)
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Happy birthday, my friend!

Despite the advanced years, I don't see any grey hairs in that photo just yet. :)

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 13th, 2008 05:32 am (UTC)
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They're all around the temples. :)

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head_of_fema

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from: head_of_fema
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 11:52 am (UTC)
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Happy birthday!!!

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 04:14 pm (UTC)
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Thanks! I haven't heard from you in a while. We need to catch up sometime over drinks or dinner.

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Moose

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from: legalmoose
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 12:12 pm (UTC)
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Happy birthday. :)

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 13th, 2008 05:37 am (UTC)
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Thanks!

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jp!

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from: ascendant
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 12:47 pm (UTC)
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we get to be the same age for 24 hours. ready, set, go...

funny, we've had very similar years and i was totally unaware.

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 04:08 pm (UTC)
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I think I filtered a lot of the posts that explain this, or they were before you came along to my friends list. Anyway, I'm happy to be in the 25 club.

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scoopgirl

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from: scoopgirl
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 02:39 pm (UTC)
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Happy birthday!!!!

you young whippersnapper ...

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 13th, 2008 05:32 am (UTC)
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Thanks, though I'm apparently now out of the demographic that crashes cars for fun, according to my insurance company.

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Rice

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from: grubbybastard
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 05:16 pm (UTC)
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25, 35....they're practically the same. :)

*ducks and runs*

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 09:59 pm (UTC)
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They actually are the same, except that when I'm 35 I plan to own much more underwear. :)

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Rice

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from: grubbybastard
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 10:02 pm (UTC)
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Oooh, I like you!!

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Bohemian Like You

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from: nakedifiwantto
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 05:24 pm (UTC)
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happy happy anniversary from everyone at bennigans...

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jonathan

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from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 12th, 2008 10:00 pm (UTC)
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You win the creativity award. Oh, Bennigan's ...

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jonathan

Re: Cheers!

from: silverthief2
date: Nov. 13th, 2008 05:31 am (UTC)
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Thanks!

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